Calm Place~ This is a place that you go to in your mind’s eye. It’s a quiet place. It’s a place you have been to in your adult life or … Continue reading calm place
If we grew up in homes or systems (foster care) where there was no regular soothing, reassurance, or validation, the idea of self soothing ourselves seems foreign and weird. What … Continue reading Self Soothing
Borrowed from Dr. Stephen Porges theory of the polyvagal; when under threat, the Dorsal Vagus also is known as the “Dumb Vagus,” because it is responsible for causing immobilization (freeze … Continue reading Making Friends With Your Nervous System
Complex PTSD triggers in the present that reminds us of the past. When a cue in our present environment reminds our brain of an event from the past, we move … Continue reading When the Past is in the Present
In this excellent example, borrowed from Ogden, Minton and Pain we can see what happens when our nervous system becomes activated in either hypo or hyperarousal. As Pat Ogden describes, … Continue reading Window of Tolerance
Ace Study – Adverse Childhood Events A large study done in the Kaiser institute over 17k persons participated in a questionnaire measuring areas of growing up with domestic violence, incarceration, … Continue reading ACE Study
Complex Trauma can feel like you are fighting something all the time~ Complex Trauma is a term that was coined by Judith Herman. It is a term that is given … Continue reading What is Complex Trauma?
The term borderline was developed when psychoanalysis failed for a group of patients who did not have psychotic or neurotic symptoms. Put simply, borderline means on the border of … Continue reading What is Borderline Personality?
Children idealize their dysfunctional caregivers in various ways. They do this by creating a fantasy of who their caregivers are. They literally tell themselves lies, make up stories in their mind about how wonderful their caretakers are. They exaggerate their caretaker’s strengths to minimize the deficits or abuse as a way to survive the dysfunctional system. They tell stories to themselves about how wonderful their father, mother or caregivers are so that they can be sure to omit the abuse adapt and carry on.
We are embedded in a critical age of what I am going to call digital attachment trauma.It is with much sadness I witness parents on their digital gadgets while their school-age children are either on their digital toys as well, or they are bored and staring at their parent consumed with facebook, twitter or YouTube. It’s actually even more heartbreaking to watch these parents children role model their parent’s example. To see a young child’s face showing the expression of loneliness and boredom while their parent continues to ignore them over the digital gadget is worrisome.