Author: Crystal Arber

are you an adaptive child? I am the child who had to adapt to the crazy dysfunctional family I grew up in.  I did a great job of negotiating the … Continue reading are you a functional adult or an adaptive child?

The adaptive child is the child stuck in the adults body that never got to grow up because they were too busy trying to survive a chaotic family.

rants from the adaptive child… Boundaries   What are you talking about.. boundaries? What the heck is a boundary?  What do you mean? Where you begin and I end? I … Continue reading rants from the adaptive child… boundaries

Needs Rants from the adaptive child… What are needs? Do you mean meet other peoples needs? My kids? My partner? My dysfunctional parents?  I remember taking care of my parents … Continue reading rants from the adaptive child…needs

  Interesting how so many dating advice sites and popular dating books  ask that women stop being needy, or never act needy, or remain aloof,  but what a lot of these … Continue reading Relationships and Regulation