Regulation and Romantic Relationships.






Crystal Arber:

Interesting how so many dating advice sites and popular dating books  ask that women stop being needy, or never act needy, or remain aloof,  but what a lot of these self-help articles for dating and relationship  miss, is how  important it is to turn toward our partner, be honest about our feelings, and then regulate our own anxiety. Pretend to be cool, or make him think it doesn’t bother you, and be distant, is turning away from your partner.Rather than, “pretend you are aloof and don’t care,” I would say, tell your guy what is going on for you and then make it clear that you don’t need him to change just because you are having some feelings that aren’t so pretty. Your guy might think you are a total geek,  or he might find your openness and directness completely refreshing. Chances are good that he is not used to frankness because…

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Sleep problems -PTSD


Crystal Arber:

Sleep Problems – PTSD

How do I get to sleep? If your PTSD is severe and has been ongoing for years, likely you have changed your sleep wake phase cycle. This means that you have created a brain pathway that can look like waking up every hour, or two, or sleeping in the day and not at night. Luckily we can change this through understanding sleep hygiene.

Sleep Hygiene means going to bed at the same time and getting up at the same time no matter what. You will need to be very diligent about this for several weeks. Eventually if you stick to this plan, you will be too tired to stay awake and over time you  will change your sleep wake phase cycle.

If you are struggling with intrusive thoughts are flashbacks, then you will need to orientate yourself to the present.

Tricks that help  orientate  your brain…

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Dissociation & Naltrexone

Crystal Arber:

Naltrexone and Dissociation.

What is Naltrexone and how can it help me?  For some who may be struggling with complex PTSD symptoms and  acute dissociative symptoms ( DDNOS DID),  naltrexone prescribed in  low doses can be beneficial for processing traumatic events.  Research has been able to show good results with low dose Naltrexone taken daily or one hour before  reprocessing traumatic memories.

Bilateral stimulation used in EMDR  permits a person to process traumatic events,directing  the brain  to quite miraculously  organize the parts of the traumatic event, reprocess these parts, and ultimately resolve the event so that the brain and nervous system no longer become activated when cued in the present, (a trigger in the present that reminds a person of a past traumatic event).

Since every individual is different and all medications have side effects, it is important to work with a psychiatrist who specializes in treating PTSD. Naltrexone will not be the…

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Regulating the nervous system through heartmath~ a game changer

Heartmath is an incredible website that has contributed wonderful tools to help folks with complex PTSD and other health problems support a homeostasis within the their nervous system. Not only that, heartmath has now made products that are user-friendly, enhancing a person’s sense of autonomy  with being able to regulate anytime anywhere.  This handy iPad iPod device called Inner Balance allows one to carry it with you continuing these exercises wherever you are.

Our brain can  create neuro networks both positive and negative with the habits that we form in our day-to-day experiences. We also know, that  neuro – plasticity ( the ability for the brain to grow and change) responds to positive habits creating new pathways in the brain,  so that eventually, repeating a positive behavior becomes a way of being.

See Inner Balance Button on right side of the page.

Happy heart coherence. I intend to report back on my progress with my own regulation progress.

Crystal Arber   CC 2016